Not Tonight, Darling! is a book about women whose sexual desire has disappeared completely or in part - a problem affecting ever more people.
The book goes through the various causes, in couplehood or the woman’s own life, of the problem, such as stress, being pressed for time, pregnancy and childbirth, her role as a mother, her relationship to her own body, fear and pain, a lack of attention and intimacy, previous physical or mental abuse, the partners’ different needs.
A book for both women and couples, it helps them find the heart of the problem, and offers them the chance of dealing with it by means of hands-on exercises.
Kirsten Ahlburg has been a psychotherapist in private practice for 15 years, specialising in couplehood and sexuality. In addition she has contributed to a number of newspapers and magazines as a letters editor and adviser on psychology and couplehood, and appeared in numerous television and radio programmes on these subjects.
Her books Entering Couplehood...and Taking Leave of It, How to Get a Loving Couplehood and When Sex Life Becomes Deadlock are a trilogy on couplehood.